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There are times when you perfectly know what you want. And then there are other days when you’ll ask for opinions or wind up at blogs like these. The funny thing about it is that if the advice is contrary to our initial beliefs, we usually discard that advice and go for a second opinion.

So my guess is, that in fact you already knew what you want (may it be subconsciously). You just needed some confirmation, that what you are doing is the right thing. That’s okay. 

I used to gnash my teeth on it: people would ask me what to do in a certain situation,  I’d take my time and give them the full briefing on what might work. They usually respond with: “that is some GREAT advice. Thank you so much.” And then they’d go on their merry way, doing the exact opposite. 

It’s natural. And I admit, the older I become the more I realize that some issues aren’t always that simple. But I still try my best to keep you all on the right track, even though I might not know every answer. 

Perhaps the same thing goes with the real ‘experts’: consultants, psychologists, psychopaths… if their opinion seems legit for  you, go for it. If not, change your expert. Everybody has their own theory. But be wary: it’s not because they seem to know what they are talking about, that they actually do. We mostly base our comments on personal experiences, things we have read, or things we have heard from others. If your situation doesn’t seem to fit, don’t think you are a misfit: you are having a unique experience, follow your own path. 

So if some of my posts feel right to you, please, by all means give it a try.

If not, well I can always quote Clint Eastwood:

 “Opinions are like assholes: everybody has one.”