You are here

Hello there, it has been a while hasn’t it?

To be honest I haven’t been feeling myself lately, so instead of writing advice on this blog, I have been following my own. When I felt bad, I allowed myself to cocoon a bit. When I felt better I tried to make most of it with friends, events and writing.  The only problem is of course that when you have limited energy, you can’t use as much as you want to.   Bit still we’re trying. And that takes us to the next post.

You are here

We’ve seen it a lot on maps. And yes, even on the map of life: here you are and here I am.  No matter what happened, what you’ve done or what is going to wait for you in the future: here you are. You made it this far, being on this location, with no doubt: already great accomplishments. For you they might seem insignificant, but that is because you are too close to those projects. Tell anybody else of the things that drive you, the things you have already done. They will be amazed, I’ll guarantee it. Mind you not all accomplishments are falling in the same category: family, friends, money, status… usually we focus too much on the obvious means of success. Nevertheless, here you are. You made it this far and that couldn’t be done without all the effort you’ve put in your life. You might not be on the right place… yet. But the road is still long and you have many great things to encounter. Some paths may be blocked due to your past. But remember that there are still plenty of routes to take, no matter where your destination might be. So every once and a while, when you feel lost: go outside. Go to those city maps and see the message: you are here. Now please take a bow and wave at the camera.

grow(l)ing

Oh grow up… well, I guess eventually we all have to. As it comes in all shapes and sizes. For example: dealing with responsibilities, stopping to tell cheesy puns on your great aunt’s funeral etc. 

But what growing (up) doesn’t mean is learning to live with the things you cannot control. Nor is it trying to anticipate on worst case scenarios. Growing is all about changing yourself, mastering the things you can control, so you could change a possible outcome in your advantage. And sometimes this is easier done than said: you are capable of amazing things. You really have more dormant skills than you initially thought you would. Try them out. Grow. Just take it one step at a time and the rest will follow.

one small step

With the previous post in mind I’d like you to think about something.

There is an event in Luxemburg that is called ‘the procession of Echternach’.
It is known for the way how people walk it: two steps forward, and one step back.  

Don’t you sometimes feel the same way? With every progress you make, something pushes you back. At times it just seems too hard to keep on walking against the currents. We’ve all been there. Some give up, while others gnash their teeth and try to keep up the pace.
In order to keep going, we all look up to our fellow people, to role models, characters in a book or a movie,  even to gods. We see their accomplishments and think ‘wow, if only I could be like this’.
 But what we rarely see is their struggle. They too walk against the current. And few people know how many years it took them to get that one single accomplishment done. There are many roads to success. But no matter which one you chose, or how long it will take, it always starts with a single step. And remember: it’s usually just before the finish line that exhaustion and doubts start to act op. So go on, give it just another go. You are almost there.   And even if you don’t notice it. Every small step forwards does help.